Its the age old, majorly awkward question any bride-to-be who has a sister-in-law-to-be has to ask herself. Should you ask her to be a bridesmaid? Do you have to? Why should you?
For many, it may not even be a question you have to ask yourself. Those lucky ducks love their sister-in-laws and couldn’t imagine not having them by their side on the big day but for the less fortunate, the thought of having to ask her fills you with dread.
So, what’s the worst that could happen if you don’t ask your future sister-in-law to be bridesmaid? Granted a major family argument, your future mother-in-law may start to hate you (or increase her hatred for you!) and your fiances grandmother may refuse to go to the whole day… but will anyone die? No (well that really depends on the family you are marrying into!). Alternatively, if you do ask her there could be a very peaceful rehersal dinner, no huge argument but a “primadonna” bridesmaid with different tastes to you and your other bridesmaids causing havoc at every bridal appointment, hair appointment anything else you force yourself to invite her too.
“I smile because you are my sister-in-law. I laugh because there is nothing you can do about it.”
So, how do you get yourself out of this awkward situation?
1. Time for the hubby to do something
Let’s be honest. In most cases, the hubby-to-be has done very little in the initial lead up to your big day. His big job is done, he did the deed and asked you to marry him.. He thinks he’s finished but oh no, no! It’s time to sit him down (think FIFA, beer and pizza) and ask the question. Do I have to ask your sister? Granted he will probably fluff around the question but if you can blame him later down the line you will be less in the firing line!
As much as actually kidnapping and hiding her away until after the big day would be great it kinda isn’t an option. Soz! But pulling her to the side and asking how she feels about it all isn’t so unreasonable! It’s highly likely that she is already afraid you are thinking of asking her and she knows how unsimilar to your other bridesmaids she is. Talk it over with her, you may find she would rather be out of the limelight.
3. Vegas Babbyyy
If talking to your future in-laws really isn’t an option it’s time to get outta there! Pack a bag and hit the airport. Your future husband will think he’s hit the jackpot with an amazing fiancée who books last minute holidays and if your mum, dad, granny and great aunt happen to be at that little white chapel you stumble upon.. well that is just a shocking coincidence!